Giving and Receiving

When it comes to love, most people always ask you "What are you looking for" instead of asking "What are you willing to give to that special one." Why are we so use to ask things from people instead of focusing what are we willing to give? We all spent the major part of our time thinking what we want from our family, relatives, friends or  that special one ( boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse). We have expectation of what we want and don't want or even what we will put up with. We rarely focus on what we are willing to give or bring to the table. If you expect something from someone, first be able to give that to that someone .. fair enough isn't it?
At this point in my life, I know what I want, what I don't want and what I can put up with (handle). I know relationships ( no matter what kind) are never easy because is about people with different personalities- character coming together cause they think the link they have is worth it. There will be times when neither of those people will be lovable at all but the point is going thru that together whether it is as family, friends, or romantic relationship. It is easy way more EASY to take the easy way out and break everything apart than actually stick together.
Lets share my point of view...

What I want:

Someone who knows what he wants in life and will work for it [want to get far in life]

Secure of himself and not afraid to show his emotions even if he is jealous..It is always good to know someone is afraid of losing you.

Someone who I can talk about anything.I wanna be able to share amazing and awesome new but also insecurities, problems, doubts  or anything like without feeling I will be judge or he will flip out.

Has details now and then like giving you a single rose, love letter or any other surprise out of nowhere without you have to be bugging him

FAITHFULNESS, LOYALTY, honesty, respectful.

SUPPORT .Someone who truly care about you and will be there for you when you need them the most.

Someone who will not hide stuff from you even though it might upset you whether is something little or big. about exes or just life in general. 

If there is any problem in my life, his life or in the relationship, he will want to solve it as a team and face anything together instead of taking the easy way out: break up or blaming someone ( pointing fingers) 

Someone who won't be afraid to accept his feelings for me to anyone! He will be proud to be with me. 

What I give:

• I will be faithful as I expect that.I'm not gonna put up with anyone cheating on me.
• I will support that person during the bright and not so bright day. Motivate him when he needs it but also let him know when he is not doing things right. 
• If I am in love, I don't only say it but also show it every time I can and in every way I possibly can. Since I like romance the old fashion way I may write letters lol yeah corny I know but also because it is the best way for me to express what I think and feel.. Don't judge lol
  
• I will get jealous now and then .. hey I am a woman plus I am latina lol but I rarely show it unless I see something shady form my partner or someone else... If you actually love the person, you will be afraid to lose him so it is ok to be jealous a lil... and everyone like that ( to see their love one protective of them).
• If there is a problem, I like to face it and talk about it not like other who run from it and change topics. How can you find the solution to something if you try to blind yourself? exactly my point! I like to communicate and see how it can be fixed as a team.
• I may not express every deep emotion I feel or I take a long time but if the person makes me feel secure enough I will break all the walls I have put up and let them in my heart.
• I will always be there for that person no matter where I am or what time it is. I will find the way to be as close as I can.
• I don't play game. What you see is what you get. I am as honest as I can possibly be. I take things serious cuz the last thing I will do is to play with someones heart. 
• I may be quiet at times or not have the best word but definitely that person will always have my shoulder and/ chest to put his head for comfort. 
• I will be committed and do everything I can to make things work and last. 
• I am polite and don't like drama... now if drama try to find me I like talk about it which is not the same than arguing for anything. I don't like to argue unless there is a big reason for that to happen. I think it is better to spend that time doing something that will make us happy.
• I give him the personal space he needs as I do. I like him to share his plans for the weekends, holidays or any day whether it is with me or not. As I do, If i will go out i will let him know...communication once again.

What a Girl Want [By C.A]

I wanna thank you for giving me time to breathe Like a rock you waited so patiently 
While I got it together While I figured it out, yeah yeah I only looked but I never touched 'Cause in my heart was a picture of us Holdin' hands, makin' plans and it's lucky for me you understand 

What a girl wants What a girl needs Whatever makes me happy sets you free And I'm thanking you for knowing exactly What a girl wants What a girl needs Whatever keeps me in your arms  And I'm thanking you for giving it to me


What I want is what you got And what you got, is what I want.

There was a time I was blind, I was so confused Run away just to hide it all from you. But baby, you knew me better than I knew myself They say if you love something let it go If it comes back it's yours That's how you know It's for keeps, yeah, it's for sure And you're ready and willin' To give me more than 

What a girl wants, what a girl needs Somebody sensitive, courageous, Sexy, cool, like you. 

You let a girl know how much you Care about her, I swear You're the one who always knew... 

Oh, I'm thanking you for being there for me.

If You Had My love [By J.L]

If you had my love And I gave you all my trust  Would you comfort me  And if somehow you knew that your love would be untrue Would you lie to me And call me baby 

Now if I gave you me, this is how it's got to be First of all I won't take you cheatin' on me Tell me who can I trust if I can't trust in you And I refuse to let you play me for a fool You said that we could possibly spend eternity See that's what you told me But if you want me 
You have to be fulfilling all my dreams 
(If you really want me babe) 
Said you want my love and you've got to have it all But first there are some things you need to know If you want to live With all I have to give I need to feel true love Or it's got to end, yeah 
I don't want you Trying to get with me And I end up unhappy (Don't need the hurt and I don't need the pain) So before I do Give myself to you I have to know the truth 
(If I spend my life with you) 

Funny But True

Translation : If you just wanna play games let me know so I will not fall in love. If you want true love then let me know so I don't play games

P.D very true but I personally don't play games ... what you see is what you get. When it comes to feelings, I am straight up. Ask and you will know the answer about how I may feel.. no other way, THE ONLY WAY 

No Ordinary Love [ By Deftones]

I gave you all the love I got I gave you more than I could give I gave you love I gave you all that I have inside And you took my love

Didn't I tell you What I believe 

Did somebody say that A love like that won't last
Didn't I give you All that I've got to give baby

I keep crying
I keep trying for you
There's nothing like you and I baby

This is no ordinary love No ordinary love

When you came my way You brightened every day With your sweet smile

No Matter What [By P.R]

I need you right here, by my side You're everything I'm not in my life. We're indestructible, we are untouchable Nothing can take us down tonight You are so beautiful, it should be criminal

That you could be mine. And we will make it out alive I'll promise you this love will never die!

No matter what, I got your back I'll take a bullet for you if it comes to that I swear to God that in the bitter end We're gonna be the last ones standing So believe me when I say, you're the one They'll never forgive us for the things we've done

No matter what, I got your back I'll take a bullet for you if it comes to that I swear to God that in the bitter end We're gonna be the last ones standing We'll never fall, we'll never fade

I'll promise you forever and my soul today No matter what until the bitter end We're gonna be the last ones standing

And everybody said that we would never last, And if they saw us now I bet they'd take it back It doesn't matter what we do or what we say 'Cause nothing matters anyway!

P.D. I hope soon enough I can dedicate this song :)

Thinks You May Not Know About Me [Part III]

• Things I wont put up with:
•  Someone being disrespectful in any way or type towards me or someone I truly care about.
• Cheating 
• Fake friends
• Don't wanna talk to me ( thru social media or phone -calls/text) cool then don't blame me if we end up as strangers
• I don't chase people no matter how much I care or love them or want they to be part of my life.
• Only my mood is easy to read. If you want to know how I feel *my deep emotions*, you will have to ask me because you may never guess it.
• The past always comes back into my life. (In general- everything)
•  I start doubting when people give me reasons no before.
• I answer texts as soon as I can because its a matter of being polite/respectful.
• If someone actually likes me or want to date me ( first time or again), he will have to be direct because I don't read minds.Be direct! 
• I love the old fashion romance: guy makes the first move, he is polite (matter of how he speaks and conduct himself), love letters, flowers (particularly roses), dark chocolate, and all that kind of stuff.
• I'm a jealous person with the ones I love the most.I rarely show it. When I am in a relationship I dont really say much unless the person I am dating gives me reason to question something or show that part of me. 
• I don't really go clubbing but I love to dance.
• I try to have my feeling under control till I know where I stand with that person... till then my feeling towards that person will be in a box that I will not open unless that person show something or we have a conversation about it ( friendship - romance )
•  I have close guy friends like Jonathan (JP), Carlos, Diego and others but that doesn't mean something did,do, or will happen. I don't know why people have the freaking Idea  if you are friend with a guy something will end happening NO!!!!! Nothing will ever EVER happen with my best guys friends because they are my brother and that's it! God Men and women CAN BE ONLY AND JUST FRIENDS! News!
• I like to plan things ahead of time but I don't get excited till the right moment when it is happening.
• Since I started to be more open about my emotions, when I listen to music with deep emotional lyrics, I end up tearing or getting chills.. don judge lol
• I strongly dislike when someone tell me " I need to talk to you- tell you something" but they never do but just repeat that. I mean if you need time to tell me something OK .. take your time when you are ready say it but don't do this -.- 
• Dislike when
• someone text you after hours but expect to be answered right away.
• people text you first, you text back..and no answer after that
• people saying you can count on me but then they disappear. 
• If you are busy and cant answer, tell me I get it.. don't let me hanging -.- 
• I like when the guy I like or that I am dating  get a little jealous now and then. It is good to know that person actually cares and he is afraid to lose you.
• Hate when guys start talking to you or kinda want take you on dates but they are in a relationship or about to be in one. Don't play those games and with peoples feeling. Karma is a B@#$!
• I hate when the friends of your ex tries to go out with.. really? no matter the reason that I broke up with the guy. I will not go out/date his best friend! THATS NOT A FRIEND!
• If I need - want to read or study, I need everything QUIET!
• I like jokes... but depending the kind of jokes and the amount of trust - link we have.. I tend to be more opened or closed. If I don know you and you automatically decide to pick on me the whole time.. -_- I will not be laughing
• I care and worry more than I should.

Scars [ By M.C]

I can pretend that I don't see you,  I can pretend I don't wanna hold you when you're around, I can say that nothing was right, But we know if I looked in your eyes I'd break down,

If I could, have just one night, to be with you, and make it right,To what we were, and what we are, It's hidden in the scars If I could, take you there,I wont let go, this I swear, You wont have to wonder what we are, Cause you wont have to ever look to far, Its in the scars, Its hidden in the scars,

If I told you that I love you, But I'm doing alright without you it'd be a lie, But I could try, I'd run 1000 miles, believe me, You're the only one, I want to bring me to break down,

Yeah I'll tell you all my secrets, All the ones I've kept inside, And Ill give you all the reasons, That you faded from my life, I won't let you go, baby come here close, I won't let you walk away

Forgiveness

This picture really left me thinking... is this true? I believe that forgiveness sets you free. That person may want or not to be forgiven but the only one that actually ends up hurt its you because you are the one saving all that resentment and anger while the other person may be enjoying their lives or may not even care at all.
Sometimes we put up with so much stuff to not lose the ones we love that we forget about ourselves. Even though we definitely want to hold on, we have to put limits because your/my sake its more important than anything and anyone else. Those people get use to our kindness and forgiveness that they think they can fix everything just by saying " I am sorry" or drop a tear or two. It makes me sad there are a LOT of people like that. Be smart and take care of the ones you love but most important, take care of you!. If they actually care for you and/ o love you, they will think twice before hurting you. Actions have consequences!

Marry Someone who...

Bitter Sweet Life

I have been wanting to write something but I just couldn't. I couldn't get the inspiration or desire even though the idea was there. I was wondering what happened?was I going back to my old ways? Was I depressed? Was I in a "I don't care mood" Then, I realized that it was just life giving me the chance to take a little time off for me, myself and I. A lot of people do not enjoy those little moments because what they see is frustration, "laziness" or anything related to it. Yet can you just stop and analyze why you feel the way you feel instead of looking for something to do right away?. It is OK to want to do things but it is even better to appreciate the quiet moments when you can listen to your deep inner feelings and/or your soul as corny as that may sound.
I have improved myself so much throughout the years. I don't use the expression " I change" because I haven't. I never want to change who I am! I was created with an unique essence as a person but what I can do is to be the best I can be through improvement which is not the same as change.
I have seen people living my dreams and let me thinking maybe I would be happier if I was the doctor I wanted to be, already had an amazing job as an economist, were living on my own, or maybe if I was already starting a family? But you know what I stopped myself and said..."Everyone has a different road to travel. Each one of us will happy on our own terms and ways, but will still struggle now and then. Life is so bitter sweet for you or me to be jealous about others people happiness even though its a fair human reaction. Even though you may think they are the happiest people in the world, they may be fighting their own battles. We all have our awesome and darkest moments but what it is important is to appreciate it because whatever happened in your life lead you to the "here and now." Maybe it is not exactly where and how you wanted things to be but you can do something to change it. Worst case scenario... there is nothing you can change, then see it differently and make the best of it. Sounds so good right? better said than done? Epic true but you know what... Even though I may be scared at times because my life is constantly changing and nothing is for certain, I know I give my best and that's what matters. I will not have regrets even if I fail because I know I give it a shot and put my heart and brain into to it.. no matter what it is or in what aspect of my life. There may be people who said they care for me but bailed on me when I needed them the most and you know what that's their lost. I'm never even going to be an ass@#% type of person because they were to me or will do it to someone else. I will just be the nice & sweet me to the ones worth to see that aspect of me. I may ignore, don't answer or completely disappear and they will wonder why...They will have to finally have the courage to admit they hurt me and will feel bad because they lost someone loyal and that will have never given up on them. They might want to come back and they can as long as they will be full time people in my life and have pure intentions..if not, they can live their lives away from me.
I am focus on me and my love ones. Trying to focus on my goals as a professional and person. Prepare for the worst and hoping for the best. Life will never be easy but with the right mindset you can definitely get far in life. Destiny does not work alone, you gotta make the moves as well. Time will help things fall into place as long as you keep on going. Follow your heart and brains, the path that will lead you to your happiness. Be true to yourself and respect people in every way and level. Be a doer !

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Why You should NOT Go Back With Your Ex

• Because you want to satisfy your ego and nothing else, or your just used to it.
• No matter what he/she does, you will never be able to trust him/her.
• You don’t love them anymore. Maybe the person is still in love with you but you’re sorry you may consider the option to “not hurt them” or “protect them”
• That person lied, cheated, hided stuff from you and you know and he/she has showed you he/she will NEVER change just “rest” ( he/she will do it from time to time but will never admit it to anyone eve themselves)
• This person was violent (physically, psychologically or emotionally) or disrespectful in any way to you or loves ones.
• That person or you just feel alone.
• They don’t share their world with you ( family, friends, goals , etc)
• That person only judges you instead of analyzing the whole picture; don't admit he/she probably hurt you too.
• Both are not open to start from zero and truly give it a second chance leaving everything in the past BUT keeping the lessons learned from the mistakes both made.
• If that person is blackmailing you in any way or type.
• If you know you hurt them (cheated, lied, hided stuff or others) and you know you will never change, don’t play with someone’s feelings making them believe you will “change” be honest for once and give them the chance to be happy with someone worth those feelings.
• You know you can NEVER EVER count on them.
• If you know what you will give to that person is way WAY more than that person will give you. Relationships is 50-50 not 10-90 -.- Both got to put their best foot forward and effort so things can work.
  

Reasons To Go Back With Your Ex

•  Because you realize that no matter how long has it been or the reasons why it ended, your feelings have not change a bit. You realize it just through the simplest thing like seeing a picture of that person and even more when you have them in front of you.
• The time that has passed by help you realize that you also made mistakes. You are mature enough to admit it and have a serious conversation about it so you guys can discuss if you can give it a second chance.  You need to promise to yourself and your partner that YOU will not make the same mistakes as you expect the same from your love one if not there is no point.!!! 
•  Even though both made mistakes, what you guys had is way more worthy than anything or anyone else who may try to come in between.
•  Both are on the same page about what kind of relationship you guys want and will be committed and faithful.
• Both of you agree that the past is the past so you will start from zero BUT will keep in mind the lessons learned so you guys will avoid making the same mistakes.
• You want to be together not only for today but for the long run which means have a stable relationship.
• You know what you want from that person but most important you know what you will give that person.
• You are aware that relationships will go through hard times like anyone else’s. Life has good and not so good moments. However, when the hard times arrive for either one of you or both, both as a couple will face it and support each other. Most people take the easy way out (break up) when this happens. Facing and overcoming problems will make the bond stronger but as previously said it won’t be easy. 
• You guys will trust in each other and will not give any reason for your partner to have doubts.
• If you or both of you thought about having a future together (living together or getting engaged) this means what you had, was very strong so it may be worth the try.
• You see your ex is being honest about the reasons of why you guys would give it shot and you may feel the same way or agree. Getting back together will not compromise your self esteem or well-being.

Me Voy [By T.A]

Me voy ya no te veo  Me voy ya no te tengo Me voy ya no te encuentro  Me fui tan lejos...

Me voy buscándome Intento comprender No dejo de llorar No paro de volver

No volveré a perderte Y si te encuentro No volveré a dejarte Nunca tan lejos Y si otra vez Me quedo sola y te vas Y al fin te pierdo No me dejes la llave De tus recuerdos

Volver para encontrarte Volver para sentirte Volver para besarte Y para quedarme

Y buscaré por dentro Y buscaré por fuera Gritando en silencio Para derribar todas las puertas Y cuando mi cuerpo te deje de buscar Es mi alma la que saldrá A intentar viajar A probar de nuevo

No volveré a perderte Y si te encuentro No volveré a dejarte  Nunca tan lejos Y si otra vez Me quedo sola y te vas Y al fin te pierdo No me dejes la llave De tus recuerdos

Con una sola llave probá Con una sola llave intentá Con una sola llave será La que rompa el candado
Aunque no haya nadie ya

Destiny

People talk how you should let destiny or time make things fall into place BUT YOU are a big part of what happens in your life. Destiny is nothing without action. Follow your dreams and make come true what makes you happy in all aspects.Most important be straight forward (politely) and honest.

The End : No More Mask

Most of relationships are based on trust. Trust is built along the way but how much do you actually know someone? I am big believer that you never stop getting to know someone whether its a relative, friend or even your spouse.
Now if we talk about relationships : friendships and romantically ones, they can be tricky to certain extent. From my woman "like" point of view, I think we do get to know someone in some percentage but if unfortunately the relationship ends [no matter which one it was - friendship or romantic one], thats when you actually see how that person really is. I'm not trying to say you are fake during the time the relationship lasted but when egos or hearts are hurt, people may act different than they use to... it happened to me and it may have happened to you as well.
I had romantic relationships end as well as friendships... and those people showed me another face I never knew. Guys were jerks and women were as fake as they can be. I was surprise and sorry. Even though I tried to see the bigger picture, I could not stop myself and think " were they really this nasty kind of people and my love- care for them blinded me so bad I didn't see it?" I am not sure if I will ever know why they have acted that way... I don't know if they will have the courage to explain themselves after how things went down.. to be extremely honest I doubt it because most of those people don't stop to think about how they might affect others but themselves...either way I'm not gonna hold any type of negative feeling towards what I have experienced yet definitely it is a lesson learned... So be aware to the little details...the true and deep personality of someone comes to the surface when you least expect it and under the most unconventional situations.

Fall in Love

Say Ok [ By V.H]

You are fine, you are sweet But, I'm still a bit naive with my heart When you're close, I don't breathe
I can't find the words to speak and I feel sparks But I don't wanna be into you If you're not looking for true love No, I don't wanna start seeing you If I can't be your only one, so tell me

When it's not alright, when it's not ok Will you try to make me feel better? Will you say alright? Will you say ok? Will you stick with me through whatever Or run away?

When you call I don't know If I should pick up the phone every time I'm not like all my friends Who keep calling up the boys, I'm so shy But I don't wanna be into you If you don't treat me the right way See, I can only start seeing you If you can make my heart feel safe Feel safe!

Let me know if it's gon' be you Boy, you got some things to prove Let me know that you'll keep me safe
I don't want you to run away So let me know that you'll call on time Let me know that you'll help me shine
Will you wipe my tears away? Will you hold me closer?