Ladies Talk...

Last post was all about what makes a man...a man.. well at least in my eyes.. Therefore, it is only fair to give the other side of the story.... what makes me a WOMAN with all big letters...
We all know or at least hope are aware than being a woman has always been complicated.  We have to overcome countless obstacles throughout history and even nowadays.  It is intriguing how women "have" to fulfill more expectations than men since they have been naturalized...
Anyways, here are some characteristics of a G.O.O.D woman in my eyes and who I hope to be...

• She is honest with the ones she loved but most important with herself. She knows lies and betrayals hurts someone if deeper level than a regular person can imagine
• She commits since day one. She knows the long term goal is to have a healthy relationship which includes bumps along the road. She will not leave you hanging because you turnout to be not perfect. Instead, she will be there to help you overcome it and remind you that her support is the good, bad and in-between days. 
• She is independent in all aspects so don't expect her to beg you to be in her life  no matter what link you have ( friendship/romance/family). If you want to be part of her life, believe she will match your efforts...
• She is empathetic and forgives. However, she doesn't allow people play her. If someone takes advantage of her, she will learn and grow from the experience. However, remember she is not the one being played, that person played themselves.
• She is serious but also  let her guard down from time to time. She can be silly just like a little girl and serious when it comes to protect her love ones as a mother would.
• She always play with her "deck" open. She will let you know what role you play in her life. She doesn't play little games that will lead on people.
• She is humble and down to earth. She gets far in life in all aspects but always remember where she comes from and is proud of it. Proud of every obstacle she has overcome and will do in the future
• She is accountable for her mistakes. She is not afraid to say " sorry" and apologize. She embraces  it and grows.
• She is supportive and responsible in all aspects. She makes time for her priorities but also for her relationships ( family, friends and romance) . She knows know the importance to nurture her future but also her heart.
• She acknowledges her flaws and constantly work on them. She is aware some day will be better than other and tries to embrace challenges in a  positive way.Even if she breaks down from time to time, she rises stronger.
  
• Her words have meaning. She says what she means and means what she says. She does not express feelings she does not feel with everything she got. 
• Treats all people equality no matter religion, sexuality, status, and more. 
• If she wants a parter, she will want someone who complement his life. Someone who share same values and point of view even if that would challenge her at times. Someone who inspires him tone and do better. She does not look for enablers or someone to manipulate. 
• She values every detail her love ones have with her. That text message , DM , post, call out of no where letting her know she was on your mind or that random friend thats tops by her house to chat, grab lunch or just sing in the car... The most simple ways to show love to her will make her heart warm and even bring tears of joy 
• She has respect for people who is accountable for their errors confront her apologizes and change their behavior. She acknowledges that fighting with your own demons is not easy therefore; the effort is valued. She cannot fixed something she did not break but she can compromise.... meet on the way for a mutual goal be in each other lives.
• She knows how precious are "second changes" whether she gives or receives one. 
• Before she expects or ask anything from anyone, she makes sure to be able to bring the to the table in all aspects
• Her life seeks meaning deeper than materialistic or physical things
• She is patient because she know there is no perfection. However, she had boundaries which keep her relationships and herself health
• She is terrified of love, trust and walls she has built. However, she conquers those fears when she crosses path with people who are worth the risk and make her safe to do it.

As a woman, we have so many expectation on what to do or not, how to feel, how to react.... endless I would say as previously mentioned. We have a magnifying glass because it is easier to judge a woman than a man . Facts! Whether you want to accept it or not .. it's so normalized is terrifying at times. However,  it can also be used as motivation to be the best you can and prove people and your own fears wrong.
I am a great catch.. I know it! I know what I want, deserve and am willing to put up with. I have embrace challenges that I never thought I would. I have gotten my heart broken more times I can count. But for some reason; I still believe in true love. I have been played , cheated on, ghosted, took advantage of but I still believe there is good. I have cried myself to sleep but woke up and put a smile on my face and keep on fighting. Life is not about who does not cry ... is the survival of the strong ones and hey I AM A STRONG WOMAN!  I know I will always give my best to the one(s) I love. I will be there through thick and thin (truly). I know how to walk away when people treats me with no respect. If someone comes back for good and real reasons, I LISTEN, I forgive but don't forget because the lessons must not be forgotten. they help you avoid the same mistakes... I keep learning... I am ready for what it comes and if I am not, I will figure it out... I always do....