What's life really about?

Simple but also complicated question, isn’t it? What is life really about? Is there any short or long answer? I don’t believe there is just one. Life is relative. It is about how you want to see and live it. It is happiness and sadness, love and “hate”, winning and losing. Sometimes we spend so much time trying to comprehend what life is about, trying to understand what went wrong in the past by reliving the mistakes we or people made which just brings pain into your life unless you want to see it as lessons learned, thinking about the people we lost in one way or another  or even pursuing “our happiness” forgetting we are just focusing in the future leaving on the side the present that we should be living, enjoying and actually doing something for our so claim “happiness.”

Most of us run away from our past but aren’t we just doing the opposite by keeping it in mind more than we should. The past is just that THE PAST. Something we already lived and whether the outcome was good or not, we will not be able to change it and is still part of our history. Mistakes are not just that but lessons that you are supposed to learn along the way. Not all of them would be easy to go through but that is life, isn’t it? It always challenges you and you should use it as ways to prove yourself you learn “the lessons” and you are better than you were before. Not everything related to the past has to be bad whether or not that chapter(s) ended or there are still some unsolved situations. If you still need to work through something, try to do it when you feel ready to do so. Look for the best time (depends on each situation) because you can’t run from that for too long. Life has its own funny way to make you comfort all that when you least expect it. Deal with your past or it will haunt you and the person(s) around you and it will not let you be truly happy. You cannot be attached to someone and/or some situations and use them as excuses to whatever is going on in your present because it will just stop you from enjoying what really matters your present and everything that involves it. Also, at the moment that you think you are ready to confront your past you should be ready to forgive the other person’s mistakes but also yours as well. Even though at the moment you might not see it, sometimes it is our fault as well. Think beyond what could happen, sometimes we think that our past comes back because it’s meant to be now or we have another lesson to learn making us attach to that “something” that we already know it is not good for us. It might come back just as prove to ourselves that we can say NO! Because you already learned what you were supposed to learn and if you know it will just bring pain into your life why would you decide to go down that road again? On the other hand, you should also be able to see what went right and the good memories and people that you got to know whether or not they still part of your life. One way or another they have shaped the way you are and see things now. Maybe he/she is not part of your life anymore or maybe he/she is but not as you will like them to; but remember the good times and what you learned from those experiences. Maybe that person helped you to realize and get to know who you are, confront your fears, admit that it’s ok to feel and be vulnerable from time to time, or just crack that wall you built to protect yourself. Every decision you have taken brought you to be the person you are now and where you stand.

Another “mistake” that most of us make is worrying about what the future has for us or what we want in the long run. It is not bad to actually want something good for us whether it is related to career, familiar or personal matters till we cross the limit and stop enjoying our preset because of it. The future is just a possibility, millions of them so why focus in something that you are not even sure it is going to happen. I know sometimes we do it as a way to protect ourselves from failure or rejection but we can’t live that way because at some point we have to confront situations and feelings that might not be as good as we would like to but will make us stronger. In love matters, sometimes we are trying to think ahead leaving on the side what is going on around us. We are trying to figure someone out and their intentions that we do not appreciate or enjoy their company. Is it worth it? Or it is better to enjoy the moment and what you have to live with that person. It all depends on the personality of each person but I believe you can find a way to care about the future but also enjoy the little moments you can spend with that special one. Maybe you two are mean to be together or maybe not. However, whether you are together with someone for couple of weeks, months or years, you should appreciate and be happy of what you live with them because at the end of the day these are going to be not just memories but also lessons that might help you later on in life. In addition, never rush or stop your life based on what you think might or not happen. When something is mean to be or has to happen, it will eventually never sooner never later and I know this by my own experience. Care about your future BUT don’t live in it…

Finally it’s time to talk to our priceless present. That one sometimes we do not give it the time we should, enjoy it as we deserve or just live it in general because our mind is still thinking about the past we already lived and worrying about the future that is still to come. Sometimes we are so afraid to make the same mistakes or just get hurt once again forgetting that our present can be different from the past. People are not the same even though they share common characteristics as gender, nationality or any type or culture background. You cannot compare people based on past experiences. Instead think about you have learned and use it in a positive way, in a way it will help you to “avoid” problems and be happy in next experiences yet to come. Besides, it is important to think and get excited about what the future might have for us even though it can be a little frightening as well. The important thing is not to stop yourself from living. Remember the past from time to time might come back in some way but be able to see it as a way of learning instead of just bad memories that might bring pain. Worry and care about your future but do not stop enjoying what the present is offering you because the future is just a possibility that it is up to you to make it happen and for that you need to live and make things happen in the present that in the long run will bring you happiness. Enjoy the moment, the little things that people and things around you have been offering but maybe you have been too blind to see because of fears or concerns. You only live once so make it big. Be happy with who you are and what you’ve done. Leave footprints not only in the hearts of your love ones but any person who get to know.