We all are a little insecure inside. The one who denies it is a liar. The point is that we don't let that stop us from living. However, there might be some people who make that "insecurity" as part of who they are. They adopt it as a percentage of their personality. The reason behind it will definitely vary from person to person. Any childhood experience whether it was related to people blood related or not. It is important to realize why are making it such a big important part of you so in case it is slowing down what you can be doing or how you can be improving yourself; you can do something about it. Be the best you want and can be for you first before anything or anyone else. Be happy!
On the other side, some people may feel insecure as a reaction of a certain situation they can be living or have lived. As human beings we all react to the environmental factors that try to ruin our so call life, feelings, thought, and more. If you had a traumatic experience it will scar you. Okay that might sound very harsh but it is true. Some of us feel that when someone breaks your heart is traumatic, terrible, hard to overcome (Including myself). Maybe apart boyfriend cheated on you then how can you believe that new person may not do the same thing. You hesitate about how truthful their feelings may be or not. Maybe its not a past boyfriend, maybe it is the same one that you are trying to give him a second chance but the ghost of what he did follows you. You hesitate every time he makes you feel special because maybe there is something behind those actions right? You start building up so much insecurity that starts breaking you apart and everything you love as well including that relationship.. Maybe it is not romantically, maybe a friend betrayed you telling your secrets or acting like an idiot then when that person ask you to not lose your friendship of X amount of year you hesitate. You don't want to be betrayed by that person but at the same time you don't want to lose that person because you truly care. Maybe you still in love with your ex but don't know if its the right time, if this time things will last, will be different. You wanna profess your love but don't low if the other person feels the same way so you hold back. Maybe your mother, father, relative died and want to get close to other relatives because you feel alone but also don't want to bother them because you know that you are no-ones priority and they have to live their lives....These are only few examples of hesitation....
Hesitation it is normal but you should not let it run your life. I know it is hard to stop it ad make a decision but it is part of growing up. Fin the reasons why you are hesitating and then find the way it help you to over come all those fears because you deserve to give it a try and maybe be happy. I know it may not be what you want to hear but it is true. Maybe giving it a chance can bring happiness if not it will be lesson for next time. STOP WAITING! there will be no perfect time because life is not perfect. Think if giving it a chance is with it, if its worth the fight.... if it is, DO IT! ACT NOW! because later may be too late and you will regret it whether or not you admit it to the world. Your good and pure intentions is what makes it perfect. and if you said YES I WILL, then truly make it work and don't savage yourself or the relationship ( family, friendship, romantically). Both deserve to be true to each other,be on the same page, and make it happen :) Don't blame each other for what happened in the past. Start from zero BUT being aware of what went wrong and how. Discuss it, "put the cards on the table", state which Do and don'ts to do for BOTH, be not he same page is the best way to start. Be hones, loyal, faithful, true.... come clean and stay that way.... :) together can overcome anything... a good friend, partner, relatives is what we all want in our lives so be it and look for that.
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